Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Nurturing Optimism in Premarital Couples

One of the many ways to encourage premarital couples to identify positives attributes in each other and also respond positively with optimism would be first to demonstrate to them how they could develop positive affirmations that would combat their own internal personal negative irrational thoughts and perceptions. When one learns to change the way he or she thinks and feel about his or herself in a positive outlook they can begin to build up/affirm their loved one’s esteem and identify their positive attributes. I would admonish premarital couples to understand that each is a child of God in order to maintain some level of godly respect for each other. When you are and confident you are able to esteem your partner. What I sometimes encounter during a counseling session is interacting with a client who can easily encourage and maintain optimism towards his/hers loved one but have difficulty doing the same for him/herself.

This behavior can cancel out any positive affirmations or optimistic attitude and behavior from the other person because a positive + negative = negative. A couple can practice new behavior especially for those individuals who tend to be pessimistic or always see the glass half empty. In addition, Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott, #1 New York Times Bestselling  Authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts notes, “Learning to choose your attitude is not easy, but once measured, a positive attitude paves the way for a fulfilling marriage.”[1] Consequently, when one partner in a relationship...         See  entire article, "Attitude of Optimism in Couple" and featured video by Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott.