Friday, February 15, 2019

Reconditioning Your Mind to Be Optimistic.


Hello darling! I know, it's been too long. I'm balancing and still working on being harmonious in all of my endeavors. Now, what's on my mind today is Reconditioning the mindset... Here's what I mean: 
You most likely know this already but I think it’s a good bookmark: I want to discuss programming and reconditioning your mind to be optimistic. The intent is to help you feel better emotionally and mentally.
Do you know that you can actually recondition your mind/brain to be more positive and optimistic-focused? It is a learning skill such being a good communicator that includes LISTENING to others.
Anyway, we can learn optimism from our family members and traits, and environment. Many times, I have to take clients on a journey into family history just to find a root cause or genesis of certain behaviors, thoughts and traits in order for them to better understand why they do what they do or think/believe the way they do.
In a loving peaceful home filled with emotional-regulated/stable people, a child will most likely develop healthy self-esteem, feeling of security, sense of safety, and being loved. This individual will be more optimistic throughout life compared to one who grew up in the opposite environment or atmosphere.
There are also other factors other than home environments that contribute to non-positive and non-optimistic mind such as our financial and mental health status. At some point, we have to take responsibility for our own happiness, peace and contentment.
The optimistic person will most likely be better at coping and thriving in life. I especially, want parents and premarital couples to be MINDFUL of this. I seen kids and know adults who inherited their parent’s negative core beliefs, pessimism and generational patterns of mistakes unaware.
Shucks, many of us can identify the good and bad we may have learned from our family because no human being is perfect without flaw. We are born into a dysfunctional world so I believe we must walk in grace, empathy and humility but keeping learning and growing. We WILL all make mistakes. Staying on a journey of self-improvement, growth and evolvement is key. Thus, the reason we need to work on being whole/healed and healthy within, in business, career, at work, in relationships, at home.
Two Ways of training the mind: 1. to be more positive-focused and optimistic is thinking of opposite thoughts of core beliefs. 2. Encourage and distract your negative thought or feeling with a competing or opposite mood/emotion by engaging in positive, humorous or interesting activities. This will help you develop a practice of not concentrating on what’s not currently working in your life.
Let’s break any cycles of dysfunction and brokenness.
Here are some more studies that align with my belief and observation on the topic:…

Tuesday, October 30, 2018

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Monday, September 24, 2018



You know, you don't have to always use harsh chemical-based solutions to keep your house, office, class or gym smelling fresh and great. There are natural ways to deodorize small and large spaces/rooms, closets, bathrooms and even trash cans. I am not sure about you but as I get older, I am more conscious of how chemicals are affecting our health in various ways. We constantly inhale and even digest toxins through our skin, breathing and touching.  Essential oils and  herbs are great choices for the environment.

It's funny. Out society call natural ingredients, substances and materials "alternatives" when it should be the other way around. The natural existed from the beginning of creation from the Creator and anything that is a substitute or deviant from the original is really the alternative!!!

I am  in a constant process and progress of replacing harsh cleansers, detergents,  and  air-fresheners with natural or less harsh/harming/toxic products. You can find/Google a lot of natural remedies and solutions or alternative ingredients that you can CY (Create yourself). These essential oils work as a repellent Here are two natural and non-toxic methods to keep  rooms and spaces smelling fresh and deodorized. 

**Deodorizing Rooms: You can use cotton cloths, pads or balls  to dip into citrus (orange, lemon, tangerine, grapefruit, etc.), and eucalyptus, rosemary, tea tree, peppermint, spearmint, cinnamon and lemongrass essential oils. Place it in corner floor of rooms or in something creative (faux plants, vases) or in waste/trash/garbage cans. You can spray or put drops of these oils in potpourri to help and space smell great.  

**Cleanser: Citrus, Lavender Minty oils work as an anti-bacterial and some anti-microbial agent in cleansers. Use them in kitchen, bathrooms and any room.  One simple formulation is filling a spray bottle with 2 cups of water,  1-3 teaspoons of Castile Soap and 10 to 25 drops of essential oils (depending on how strong of an aroma you want lingering in the room after cleaning). Shake solution a 5-10 times and begin spraying and wiping. 

** Bed Bug Infestation Prevention:  Shake drops of peppermint/tea tree essential oil or cayenne pepper near bottom legs of your bed, near floors, on corners and edges of floor near walls and doors. You can also do this on mattress creases and around trimmings/edges of mattress and pillows, and underneath sheets where bed bugs like to hide as well. In my research to find harmless ways to rid of certain bugs especially bed bugs, I found that cayenne pepper and these essential oils are used because they suffocate bed-bugs eventually killing them. If you suspect any, try this aforementioned alternative solution  immediately to stop potential infestation and protect yourself from getting bitten.  

Note/Bonus: Your bedroom will smell great for weeks, I tried this and my bedroom smelled like mint for weeks but I was fine with it. I did this when I worked as a residential manager /supervisor and had a bed bug situation where we had to heat steam the that house I worked in so I my routine became, taking off all of my clothes as soon as I walked in my own home, place my clothes in plastic bag, throw them in the hot dryer first, washed in hot/warm water then back in the dryer. The heat from the dryer kills the bugs as well. Other natural solutions used is baking soda and pesticide grade diatomaceous earth powder and lavender essential oil. 

*I found a simple video on how to use some of these oils and powders as a bug repellent: 

Tuesday, July 10, 2018



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Saturday, December 9, 2017


From our Kitchen on THANKSGIVING 

Ok, so I know this is a laaaaaate late presentation but we have been so busy and taking breaks in between tasks, holiday activities and travel. I wanted to post this the day of or after Thanksgiving of the special time with my daughter bonding while cooking a traditional meal minus the turkey. Oh, and dinner came out pretty tasty I might add. My daughter also made her first pumpkin pie from scratch later on this day and it tasted similar to sweet potato pie. After we cooked at home, we went over to our parents and one of my brother's home to eat dinner. That's good. 


Saturday, November 18, 2017


Thanksgiving Dinner & Cell Phones 

So, Which one of these illustrations will be your reality during Thanksgiving dinner this year?

I hope not. I know that this is someone's reality not only during family-time or holidays but it has become your norm. My recommendations are to put down your cell phones at least during Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner time-making a conscious effort to spend quality time together using VERBAL communication. 

Ways to improve your holiday or dinner experience:
1. Make an agreement to hurry and get all of the photos of your food and dinner members out of the way before digging in. 

2. Inform others that you are taking quick pictures or typing quick texts, and then redirect your attention back to them. 

3. Let the textee on the other end know that you will get back to them after spending some time with family, friends and other loved ones. 

4. Just put the phone down to enjoy your food and for proper digestion instead of rushing or taking large bites in order to engage in cell phone activities. 

Look at what Pew Research finds on the percentage of those who oppose or don't mind using cell phones during dinner:

Here's a short recap of a previous article I written about increasing coactivity/coaction within your relationships:

Nurturing relationships takes patience, impassion, empathy, unselfishness, care and love. 
Also, check out my life coaching site Here! for more info and if you need a life coach who use biblical principles/values.

In today’s culture of advance technology and its development/derivatives: Social networking such as Facebook-Twitter-The New Myspace-Blogging-Chatting-Webinar-Internet games etc., have invaded Privacy and Confidentiality! There is no more! We are easily tracked and can easily experience identity theft. It’s a no-brainer that we are bombarded with these distractions if we’re not practicing balance, wisdom and self-control from over-indulgence and gluttony. 

Key Re-establishing relationships through:
  • Coactivity entails spending time together, engaging in leisure/recreational/fitness and other activities, planning and co-creating, and brainstorming together.
  • Coaction can produce increased levels of intimacy in any relationship; even friendships.What's diminishing?Answer: Coactivity 
Definitions: n. 1. Unity of action (Webster’s Revised Unabridged Dictionary, published 1913 by C. & G. Merriam Co.) Coaction: Joint action; (Webster’s Revised Unabridged Dictionary, published 1913 by C. & G. Merriam Co.) Relationships being effected: Healthy Friendships; Nurturing/Nourishing premarital relationships; Healthy child-parent/adolescent parent relationships... 

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Pumpkin Fruit Smoothie for Brunch

First Pumpkin Fruit Smoothie 

Goodness and Grace on this morning!
Not a lot of writing here. Just sharing my spontaneous tapings/video below of my talk on benefits of pumpkin while making my first pumpkin & fruit smoothie as brunch for my daughter and I. Next video will be yours truly making my first roasted pumpkin seeds. 
1. Pumpkin 
2. Cashew Milk
3. Vanilla Extract
4. Strawberries
5. Peaches
6. Mangoes
7. Ice
8. Water
9. Brown Sugar (1 tablespoon)

Friday, November 3, 2017


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